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Mrs. Basmath Sharma
June 9, 1941

Chahu ga mai toojhay Saanj sabarey

Dusk or Dawn I need YOU

Chahoonga Main Tujhe Saanjh Sawere
Phir Bhi Kabhi Ab Naam Ko Tere
Awaaz Main Na Doonga...

Dekh Mujhe Sab Hai Pata
Sunta Hai Tu Man Ki Sada
Mitwa...Mere Yaar
Tujhko Baar Baar
Awaaz Main Na Doonga...

Dard Bhi Tu, Chain Bhi Tu
Daras Bhi Tu, Nain Bhi Tu
Mitwa...Mere Yaar
Tujhko Baar Baar
Awaaz Main Na Doonga...

 

"The marriage becomes complete and binding when the 7th step is taken"

(Hindu Marriage Act of 1955, Sec. 7 SS2 of the Republic of India.)

SAPTAPADI - - - SEVEN STEPS

Hiranyakest Grhya Sutra 1.6.21 - 2

Step

Groom says:

Bride says:

First

This, your first step is to ensure fulfillment and growth of food and other economic needs.

I do accept the responsibility but you must place all assets of the home under my control.

Second

This, second step is to bring strength and courage for the welfare and protection of our family.

I shall fill your heart with love, strength and courage at all times and participates in the welfare of the family in happiness or sorrow, at all times.

Third

This third step signifies the growth of wealth and prosperity.

I shall love you with single-minded devotion. My devotion to you is of a chaste wife and you are my joy. This is my pledge and commitment to you.

Fourth

Joy and happiness is the significance of this the fourth step.

I shall participate and share in your joy and your sorrows at all times.

Fifth

For the health and welfare of our cattle and all other animals, you take this fifth step.

Religiously each day I shall attend to our animals and to you, my Lord.

Sixth

For the enjoyment of peace, love and happiness throughout all the seasons of the year, is this sixth step.

I shall obey and carryout your instructions in all acts.

Seventh

You shall be my companion as a chaste wife and assist me, in consultation, in the carrying out of my wishes.

I shall remain your companion and assist you in all religious and righteous acts of our Dharma.

THE VOWS

Acharya Vachan

The Pundit Says:

Erecting and decorating the marrow ... tent built with bamboo and covered with coconut leaves.... Is like beautifying one house; eating madhupak cleans the body of the groom; havaan pleases the devatas but unless the bride agrees and the groom accepts the dulahin (bride) to sit on the left side of the groom marriage remains incomplete.

And thus, the bride's father pleads with the groom:

Today, by the Agni (sacred fire) and poojan (rituals) in the presence of Brahma, Vishnu and Mahesh (The Trinity), Nau Grha Devatas (planets) and this august assembly "I give my daughter, who is of tender age and inexperienced in the ways of a householder's life in marriage.

"She is now under your loving care and life long protection, but she would need your guidance, advice and teachings. If her ways do not meet your approval, it is for you to bring about change with gentle persuasion along the path of our Dharma and righteousness."

The groom now invites the bride to sit on his left side:

By this sacred ceremony in the presence of the Devatas, our parents and the society you have been betrothed to me to be my wife by sitting at my left. However, if there is any doubt or question you need to get cleared, please, in the presence of all present, do now ask.

The Bride to the Groom:

I am about to leave the love, care and protection of my parents home to become your wife and lifelong companion, under your care and protection, at your home. I here and now do pledge to share this householders life with you in pleasure and/or pain, happiness and/or sorrows, wealth and/or poverty, health and/or illness, fame and/or shame.

I am prepared to place my humble self in your care to live in Dharma and maintain our tradition and sanctity of Dharma under all conditions but I too need your pledge on the terms that follows:

  1. Whenever you undertake a Yagna, attend religious ceremonies or go on a pilgrimage, I desire that you consult with me and I be allowed to accompany you, if possible;
  2. Whenever you perform Pitra Yagna ... perform any rituals related to your ancestors ... I shall be allowed to participate.
  3. Should my parents, per chance face dishonour, poverty or illness, I expect that you, as my husband would render assistance, as far as possible.
  4. Should it be your desire to serve the community, build a temple or get involved in other social, religious or charitable activities, I be allowed to join in such activities.
  5. Should you at any time consider leaving home to go abroad, whether for business or pleasure, you shall first obtain my consent and ensure that the welfare of the home is secured.
  6. Should you find it necessary to lend or borrow or donate gifts, I expect that you would first consult with me and obtain my consent.
  7. You are the devata of our home to enjoy and share truth and mutual respect for each other at all times. I ask that our love and affection be nourished and allowed to grow and that with the blessings of those present, we be together, forever.

Dulaha (bridegroom) responds to the terms set by the dulahin (bride):

I have no hesitation is accepting the terms and conditions laid down and " I do pledge" before the Devatas and all present to obey and uphold them all, providing you consent to the following terms:

  1. Your conduct and moral behaviour in the home and in society shall be such as to promote our good name and never bring anykind of disgrace;
  2. If I am absent for any reason, you shall accommodate and make comfortable our acquaintances and/or visitor and/or guests to our home in accordance to our Dharma and means, suitable to their social standing, and ensuring that your conduct towards them shall at all times be beyond reproach.
  3. Should there be a difference of opinion between us or disagreement of any kind, you are not to leave our home but rather by way of discussion and compromise attempt to resolve the said difference so as to maintain peace, love and affection in our home.
  4. You shall discharge as paramount, loving care and attention towards the welfare of the home, at all times, thereby ensuring you the title of being the "goddess of the home".
  5. From this moment on, we shall share our love and affection and a home, together and we shall in common share our fortunes and success and failures. We shall each be truthful and honest to each other at all times and be guided by our Dharma in all activities and undertakings.

The bride readily consents and calling on Agni, Brahma, Vishnu, Mahesha, and all devatas and their families as witness to these vows, declared and consented to, the bride sits to the left of the happy and pleased bridegroom.